Building Your Confidence With Women
by: DanTMM
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Confidence is a state of mind.
Confidence (noun): Belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities.
Some guys have confidence with women and some guys don't. When you look closely, you will always find that the guy who doesn't have confidence with women needs to change the way he thinks about himself or the particular situation he finds himself in.
If you want to build true confidence with women, the first thing you need to do is change way of your thinking (i.e. using positive mindsets like, "Women are attracted to me because..." and come up with as many reasons as you can).
That is Stage 1.
Once you decide to change your way of thinking, you then need to get some evidence to support your new way of thinking.
That is Stage 2.
Once you've begun to gather evidence, your new way of thinking will start turning into a belief.
That is Stage 3.
Your belief, which will now be strongly influencing your behavior, actions and choice of words, will then begin to become a 'knowing.'
That is Stage 4.
You should aim to get to Stage 4 - the stage of knowing - in all areas required for success with women & dating.
For example, I now know that I can:
- Attract any woman.
- Start & continue conversations that captivate women and maintain their interest.
- Date models and high-status women.
- Feel confident in any situation.
- Approach women in a public place and move things towards a dating relationship.
If you want to achieve the same, then you'll need to put in a little bit of work. Here's what I mean...
"The Need For Instant Gratification Will Slow You Down"
Instant gratification is when an action produces an immediate result. For example: Take shower = feel fresh, clean and rejuvenated.
In some instances, instant gratification is a good thing - taking a shower. In others, it is a bad thing - trying to completely solve your confidence issues with women in 2 days.
For example: Most guys want to know the quickest, easiest tricks to get with the best women.
They hope that using quick & easy tricks = getting with quality women.
- Give me the quick tricks! I want to get laid now!
- What do I say to get her to like me?
- If I spray pheromones on me, will it make women attracted to me despite the fact that I'm not confident or good at conversation?
- How can I achieve confidence with women without trying? What's the trick? C'mon what's the trick that I only need to do once and then I'm cured for life?
But here's the deal: Women (and people for that matter) know how to spot a fake. Women are looking for guys who possess or display some or all of the following:
Confidence, Masculinity, Humor, Adventurous spirit, Social intelligence, 'Social coolness', Ambition, Style, Sexual vibe, Status, Unpredictably (or being a 'Challenge') & Charm.
Unshakable confidence takes time (i.e. delayed gratification) to develop. It is also the one trait that is most attractive to women.
However, if you do not focus on developing true, unshakeable confidence, then your lack of confidence with women will always weaken the attractiveness of any 'attractive personality trait' that you may possess or any technique that you may use.
You simply cannot mask your lack of confidence with tricks and techniques. It will never work and your personality will never be as attractive as that of a confident guy.
Sure, you may get 1 out of 100 women taking your 'bait', but they will soon realize that you're a fake and walk away or leave you.
To develop true confidence with women, you should take a long-term approach. However, it won't take too long if you are dedicated because it's just like building a new habit.
On average, a new habit will take a person 2-3 months to develop if they are diciplined and work on it everyday.
The rewards of building your confidence with women are unlimited, in terms of your dating life, career, lifestyle and general happiness.
About the Author
Dan Bacon is the CEO and lead dating coach for TheModernMan.com who provide advanced dating advice for men. Confidence, Confidence With Women, Approach Any Woman With Complete Confidence, Pick Up Women, Dating Advice For a Man, How to Get a Girlfriend, How to Kiss a Girl, How to French Kiss a Girl
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